Leicester, London, Sheffield, Hertfordshire

Welcome! I’m Mike

Four years ago I was confused and frustrated. A once loving and passionate relationship was slowly breaking down and I didn’t know why. Intimacy and physical contact was now non-existent, having been slowly withdrawn, leaving me feeling undesirable and resentful.

I knew that I had to find ways to change and create the depths of connection that I knew were possible.

The starting point was finding the courage to find and work with a Sex and Relationship coach.

This led to powerful change. But by now, I realised that I needed to explore and understand myself more fully in order to move ahead in sex and relationships.

This is how I arrived at Tantra. A practice where I could learn and develop and enjoy pleasure in new ways.

Through Tantra, I expanded my knowledge of myself in sex. I discovered new depths in my relationship with my heart, and in my relationships with others. I found ways to access my emotions in healthy ways.

Each day, I find myself building more passion into my life, relationships and work. I recognise the strength and enjoyment that comes when I am living more fully and am present.

I am passionate about your potential for change and growth. And pleasure.

Mike - Tantra Coach

My Vision for You

I encourage and support your pleasure through the discovery of intimacy, passion and ecstasy.

This includes:

  • Being connected with yourself
  • Being open to love
  • Receiving touch
  • Allowing intimacy
  • Sexual expression
  • Being connected with your feelings
  • Happiness.

I bring to my Work:

My full attention and presence. Listening actively. Challenge to support you in taking bold steps. Knowledge and experience. Empathy. Humour. Excitement. Energy. The capacity to walk beside you. Holding a safe space.

Get in touch using the form below to explore working with me.

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What is Tantra?
What Are You Waiting For? Permission to Grow

What Are You Waiting For? Permission to Grow

In the British Navy, there has long been a rule that sailors can only serve clean-shaven or with a full beard. To move from clean-shaven to bearded required seeking “permission to grow” from the ship’s captain. After a reasonable time, if your beard had not fully grown, you could be told to shave it off again. It was somebody else’s decision.

When I started going to Tantra workshops, I was a novice, not only in relation to Tantra but also in relation to personal development. I thought that turning up was enough – that somehow by osmosis or magic, I would develop and grow as a person.

A Different Kind of Love Triangle

A Different Kind of Love Triangle

How do you know when you’re in the perfect relationship? What ticks the boxes? Would you recognise the perfect relationship if you had it?

Psychologist Robert Sternberg did. For a relationship to skyrocket in the best way possible, he believed that it needed to include three elements, in pretty much equal measures: Intimacy, Commitment and Passion, the points of the perfect love triangle.

Christmas Presence

Christmas Presence

This Christmas, how lovely it would be to give and receive the gift of presence.

At this time of year, many of us spend time with family or friends. And if not we have time with ourselves.

It is easy to allow ourselves to spend that time worrying about the future or musing over the past. This means that we are not paying attention to ourselves or to others in the moment.

Say what you Mean – Four Tips to Open Your Communication

Say what you Mean – Four Tips to Open Your Communication

We can all fall into bad habits in our communication with others, especially with those we are close to. I do it myself. I have a bad habit of finishing others’ sentences, which I am conscious of and guard against, not always successfully. We tailor the way that we speak to try to second-guess what the other wants.

Why? We fear their misunderstanding, their rejection if we get it wrong, that they will pull away.

This is an example of acting in ways that put a priority on the other’s experience rather than our own. It is our head getting in the way and telling us the old stories of how we should be if we want others to like us, rather than living our truth.

So, how do we change our patterns?

What’s Your Desire?

What’s Your Desire?

In order to receive the things that you want in sex, you need to be clear about your desires, express them and be ready to allow your partner to respond.

Many of us struggle to ask for what we want in our lives. This includes our sexual desires.

But sitting with unmet needs can be frustrating and stops you fulfilling your potential.

You can learn to ask for what you want.

Every Breath You Take

Every Breath You Take

As I grew up and into my thirties I sang in choirs where I learned to breathe for a specific purpose. Using my breath, controlling it, being conscious of it, became part of the action of singing.

Yet in all other parts of my life, I ignored my breathing. It just came and went as it would, without me being consciously aware of the magical process which keeps me alive.

It was easy to breathe and live in this way, without awareness that I was breathing. Easy because it happened automatically and easy because our breath and our emotions are connected. My habit of shallow breathing allowed me to live my life avoiding feeling anything too deeply.

The Ten Habits of Luscious Lovers

The Ten Habits of Luscious Lovers

Have you ever been in a relationship when something isn’t quite right?

I have.

At times, my lover and I would be strongly connected. Other days felt a little routine or that the well had run dry on things to talk about. Perhaps we were both generally uninspired with how and where the relationship was going.

If you’ve been there and know that feeling, all is not lost with your relationship.

But it is time to focus energy onto the relationship. Let’s take a look at the ten lasting habits of people who experience fulfilling intimate relationships.

How I Learnt the Language of Love?

How I Learnt the Language of Love?

In my relationships, I’ve learned that the quality of communication between myself and my beloved is crucial.

Sometimes those lessons have been more painful than I want to remember – the things I have got wrong and the things I have not challenged. But that pain taught me something about communication. It taught me the power of intimate communication.